We get to make choices. Everyone does. Sometimes our choices don't match that of someone's else, and that can lead to pain. The greatest strength, I think, comes from overcoming the pain of a decision you did not get to make. We like to be active players in the world, in our lives. When a choice is made with an answer we don't like and we have no say in the matter, it is a feeling like no other. Helplessness, sadness, weakness, confusion, frustration. It can feel lonely, being separated from a choice.
And then I think about that word - choice. And I think about Frankl's theories. We have the ability to choose how we react to a situation. We should stop trying to figure out why something happened and instead decide how we are going to react.
I think I know how I'm going to react. I'm not sure how sold I am on it currently but I weigh the options and the other choice would leave a bigger hole, a wider chasm, a greater tear. This is when I call on strength...strength to make the decision that I know, deep down, is the only option.
1 comment:
As usual, I'm reading your posts and thinking about them. I identify with your situation, at least what I understand of it, though I wonder what decision you speak of exactly. Good luck, Lauren, and all the best.
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