Hauntings

I was discussing something with a friend yesterday and she used a word that so perfectly described what I was talking about...haunting. Have you ever had an encounter with a "ghost of Christmas past" and found yourself confused and Helen Keller-ing your way through the aftermath of it? I had en encounter that was good, nice, necessary that then turned into a reminder of things past, empty promises, throwing of a bone and taking it back, watching a wrench be thrown into some plan and then that's it, throw in the towel instead of figuring something else out.

When you find that a ghost has come to haunt you, do you embrace it and hope to make friends or do you exorcise the demons? Will it be fulfilling to just kick it out with full force without asking why it's there, figuring out it's motives, seeing what's up? Or is it better to wait it out, see if the ghost is trying to figure things out itself, trying to move into the next realm of after life. Perhaps we are trained to want to control things too much, to force answers out of situations when in reality, only time and growth will give answers, will make things better, will allow ghost and human to co-exist peacefully, and who knows, maybe even become friends.